Berman, I didn't read a damn post in this thread besides the OP. But the only thing I have to say is this: When you buy a house with her, if you put a solar array up, i'll give you a killer deal on it. Not only as your wedding gift, but because we niggas. Also because i got into some percocet and I'm feeling especially giving right about meow.
Congrats mang.
i'll remember this sometime in the next few years, i'm buying some land in the middle of nowhere and building a house on it (or finding a house + land in the middle of nowhere).
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Wait,divorced and a kid?
He must REALLY like her.
Good for him, not too many guys that in his spot will put up with that type s***.
Divorced like 10 years ago. College bf got her pregnant, they got married, they got divorced, he hasn't been seen since. She doesn't even know if he's alive. What a real man to abandon your child like that
I take back what I said....you appear to have the same taste as me.She is adorable and I certainly do not blame you for locking that one down...kid or no kid I get it now..
I take back what I said....you appear to have the same taste as me.She is adorable and I certainly do not blame you for locking that one down...kid or no kid I get it now..
if you think i would marry a woman simply because i think she's hot... i'm doing this because of who she is, not because of how she looks (although that's certainly a bonus).
Congrats, I'm not a proponent of marrying/dating broads with kids but that's because it ended so poorly for me. Obviously every case is different, I say good luck to you sir! Are you really going to have a prenup or was that a joke?
Divorced like 10 years ago. College bf got her pregnant, they got married, they got divorced, he hasn't been seen since. She doesn't even know if he's alive. What a real man to abandon your child like that
Her son is 13. I don't mind a grown child.
And yes, I REALLY like her.
You know her side of the story only. However its usually weaker men that play spare tire. She got lucky there are still trust fund children out there that have no idea of the value of money. Usually women like her are forced to marry overweight older men who do not mind a single mom because they are that dry on p****.
In all seriousness Berman, I wish you the best. There is nothing in this world like having a woman to be your partner, friend and lover. Requires a ton of give and take but it can be very rewarding. Now that my wife and I have gone through the years of early marriage really discovering each other, the whirlwind of raising kids, and are now empty-nesters, it's really interesting because it's lot like starting over again. Raising a family, you're frequently putting the kids first and yourselves second. You make time for each other when you can, not necessarily when you want to. I can tell you we have friends who, when their kids are gone will more than likely divorce because they have nothing in common anymore and do zippy alone together. I have no idea why I just wrote all this drivel.
You know her side of the story only. However its usually weaker men that play spare tire. She got lucky there are still trust fund children out there that have no idea of the value of money. Usually women like her are forced to marry overweight older men who do not mind a single mom because they are that dry on p****.
what the f*** are you talking about? trust fund children? i earn a respectable living on my own that has nothing to do with what i may or may not get as an inheritance from my father
you have also conveniently ignored everything i said about her.
you just like to be a d*** to anyone you can, for any reason. i get it
edit: btw, her side of the story? this guy walked out and never contacted his child again. left her no way to contact him. i don't care what you think she "did," that guy was clearly a winner to just abandon his child like that
edit: btw, her side of the story? this guy walked out and never contacted his child again. left her no way to contact him. i don't care what you think she "did," that guy was clearly a winner to just abandon his child like that
what the f*** are you talking about? trust fund children? i earn a respectable living on my own that has nothing to do with what i may or may not get as an inheritance from my father
Bulls*** you would have never made it where you are at without your father. Please do not act like people forget you used to work for him.
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edit: btw, her side of the story? this guy walked out and never contacted his child again. left her no way to contact him. i don't care what you think she "did," that guy was clearly a winner to just abandon his child like that
You only have her side. She may have told him to never come around, she may have told him the kid was not his. You have zero f***ing clue, and its funny how a grown man can be so love struck he will take anything a vagina says at face value. Of course she wants to be the victim. We have two options based on her choices.
1. She is a dumb beaver that decided asking for child support was a mean thing to do to a dead beat dad.
2. She is a liar and is telling you a bulls*** story so that you do not realize what a crazy clam trap you are f***ing.
You can label him about being a man all you want, but what kind of woman lets a man like that just walk away from his responsibilities? Her side of the story is all you will ever know. Its full of holes, and stupid on her end if its true.
Enjoy having your first marriage be with a single mom who cannot even collect child support for her own child from a dead beat dad. Im sure the second wife will pity you for being so dense.
Bulls*** you would have never made it where you are at without your father. Please do not act like people forget you used to work for him.
You only have her side. She may have told him to never come around, she may have told him the kid was not his. You have zero f***ing clue, and its funny how a grown man can be so love struck he will take anything a vagina says at face value. Of course she wants to be the victim. We have two options based on her choices.
1. She is a dumb beaver that decided asking for child support was a mean thing to do to a dead beat dad.
2. She is a liar and is telling you a bulls*** story so that you do not realize what a crazy clam trap you are f***ing.
You can label him about being a man all you want, but what kind of woman lets a man like that just walk away from his responsibilities? Her side of the story is all you will ever know. Its full of holes, and stupid on her end if its true.
Enjoy having your first marriage be with a single mom who cannot even collect child support for her own child from a dead beat dad. Im sure the second wife will pity you for being so dense.
Do you try to be an ignorant d***head, or does it just come naturally?
[quote=Savage Indian;525552]Bulls*** you would have never made it where you are at without your father. Please do not act like people forget you used to work for him. [/size]
i wasn't aware that my father was there, while i was getting my engineering degree, taking my tests for me, or likewise there during law school. or that he took both bar exams for me. last i checked, i did those on my own. btw, working for him actually hurt my career.
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[b]You only have her side. She may have told him to never come around, she may have told him the kid was not his. You have zero f***ing clue, and its funny how a grown man can be so love struck he will take anything a vagina says at face value. Of course she wants to be the victim. We have two options based on her choices.
1. She is a dumb beaver that decided asking for child support was a mean thing to do to a dead beat dad.
2. She is a liar and is telling you a bulls*** story so that you do not realize what a crazy clam trap you are f***ing.
You can label him about being a man all you want, but what kind of woman lets a man like that just walk away from his responsibilities? Her side of the story is all you will ever know. Its full of holes, and stupid on her end if its true.
Enjoy having your first marriage be with a single mom who cannot even collect child support for her own child from a dead beat dad. Im sure the second wife will pity you for being so dense.
I love how you assume the absolute worst about people. It's nice. It's of course not at all possible for a college girl to get knocked by her boyfriend, try to do the "right thing" and get married, then have him turn into a complete a****** over time and run off. The woman is always at fault, it always a gold digging w****. No man has EVER run out on his wife and child before.
i wasn't aware that my father was there, while i was getting my engineering degree, taking my tests for me, or likewise there during law school. or that he took both bar exams for me. last i checked, i did those on my own. btw, working for him actually hurt my career.
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I forgot your father did not pay for anything. Im sure working for your father with many connections really hurt your career
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I love how you assume the absolute worst about people. It's nice. It's of course not at all possible for a college girl to get knocked by her boyfriend, try to do the "right thing" and get married, then have him turn into a complete a****** over time and run off. The woman is always at fault, it always a gold digging w****. No man has EVER run out on his wife and child before.
Lets get say 20 college aged single mothers together and watch how they all say the same story. Then lets get the fathers in the same room and watch how they all have a different version.
You can take her word for it all you want, but even if its true it still shows what a dumb clam she is. Instead of getting child support she would prefer her parents to pick up the tab. Sounds like a real responsible...no sounds like a typical female who was trying to f*** ehr way into the easy life. Lucky she met you
I forgot your father did not pay for anything. Im sure working for your father with many connections really hurt your career
i would not be in my present financial situation without him, as i'd be saddled with loans. but, so what? i live cheaply and make plenty. i'd have no problems paying them off, although i likely would have bought a cheap car instead of the gt500.
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Lets get say 20 college aged single mothers together and watch how they all say the same story. Then lets get the fathers in the same room and watch how they all have a different version.
You can take her word for it all you want, but even if its true it still shows what a dumb clam she is. Instead of getting child support she would prefer her parents to pick up the tab. Sounds like a real responsible...no sounds like a typical female who was trying to f*** ehr way into the easy life. Lucky she met you
her parents did not pick up the tab. she hasn't taken a cent from them since she was 18-19. i take it that you read nothing. she lived in a s***hole apartment and worked full time at a daycare center, eventually managing it, so she could have her son with her at work, and she attended classes at night. her mom did help out by watching her son for her sometimes, but when that wasn't available, she'd just bring him with her to class. once she graduated and became a teacher, she'd have him enrolled in the same school she taught at, so there was no need for someone to watch him after school.
she didn't go after child support because she doesn't want to rely on anyone else. i can't say that i agree with that decision, but i understand what's behind it.
f*** her way into the easy life? we split everything 50/50 with the exception of personal expenses (our cars, insurance, clothing, lunches while at work, etc). our house and bills are pretty cheap, and she has zero issues being able to pay her half.
i would not be in my present financial situation without him, as i'd be saddled with loans. but, so what? i live cheaply and make plenty. i'd have no problems paying them off, although i likely would have bought a cheap car instead of the gt500.
her parents did not pick up the tab. she hasn't taken a cent from them since she was 18-19. i take it that you read nothing. she lived in a s***hole apartment and worked full time at a daycare center, eventually managing it, so she could have her son with her at work, and she attended classes at night. her mom did help out by watching her son for her sometimes, but when that wasn't available, she'd just bring him with her to class. once she graduated and became a teacher, she'd have him enrolled in the same school she taught at, so there was no need for someone to watch him after school.
she didn't go after child support because she doesn't want to rely on anyone else. i can't say that i agree with that decision, but i understand what's behind it.
f*** her way into the easy life? we split everything 50/50 with the exception of personal expenses (our cars, insurance, clothing, lunches while at work, etc). our house and bills are pretty cheap, and she has zero issues being able to pay her half.
her parents did not pick up the tab. she hasn't taken a cent from them since she was 18-19. i take it that you read nothing. she lived in a s***hole apartment and worked full time at a daycare center, eventually managing it, so she could have her son with her at work, and she attended classes at night. her mom did help out by watching her son for her sometimes, but when that wasn't available, she'd just bring him with her to class. once she graduated and became a teacher, she'd have him enrolled in the same school she taught at, so there was no need for someone to watch him after school.
she didn't go after child support because she doesn't want to rely on anyone else. i can't say that i agree with that decision, but i understand what's behind it.
f*** her way into the easy life? we split everything 50/50 with the exception of personal expenses (our cars, insurance, clothing, lunches while at work, etc). our house and bills are pretty cheap, and she has zero issues being able to pay her half.
So you have just shown what a dumb clam she is. The man did not ditch her if she was perfectly fine with him leaving and having no contact or financial support for her son. So now it puts more holes into her story.
So she decided to work long hours, go to school at night and have her mother watch her child at times while her ex paid for nothing? All this by her choice? Wow you are gonna learn an expensive lesson.
So you have just shown what a dumb clam she is. The man did not ditch her if she was perfectly fine with him leaving and having no contact or financial support for her son. So now it puts more holes into her story.
there are no holes. he ditched her. she chose to not go after him.
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So she decided to work long hours, go to school at night and have her mother watch her child at times while her ex paid for nothing? All this by her choice? Wow you are gonna learn an expensive lesson.
explain how a woman who took nothing from an ex, and believes in taking nothing from anybody, is going to teach me an "expensive" lesson?
you are just saying anything you can to rile me up. i get it she could have never been married, not have a kid, have a phd and make $7mil a year, and you'd still have something negative to say. i get it.
there are no holes. he ditched her. she chose to not go after him.
I know, and if i wasnt such a d*** i would find this sad you still say stuff like that over and over again and find no problem with her story.
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explain how a woman who took nothing from an ex, and believes in taking nothing from anybody, is going to teach me an "expensive" lesson?
Because you believe her bulls***
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you are just saying anything you can to rile me up. i get it she could have never been married, not have a kid, have a phd and make $7mil a year, and you'd still have something negative to say. i get it.
Not really im just letting you dig the hole for when this does not wok out. Its like the witchy thing You were not so smug when that was no longer a thing, and you actually went missing for a bit
Let us know how playing the spare tire works out on a women so giving and caring she dragged her child to school with her, and worked so hard just to become a teacher while the father of her son lived on easy street.
Not really im just letting you dig the hole for when this does not wok out. Its like the witchy thing You were not so smug when that was no longer a thing, and you actually went missing for a bit
Let us know how playing the spare tire works out on a women so giving and caring she dragged her child to school with her, and worked so hard just to become a teacher while the father of her son lived on easy street.
So if she didn't stick it to the father of the child, who rightfully deserved it, what's leading you to believe that she's going to find a way to play Berman for piles of cash? Sure he probably has more, but if her nature was just to go for the gold, she would've tried to suck the father dry regardless of his wealth.
So if she didn't stick it to the father of the child, who rightfully deserved it, what's leading you to believe that she's going to find a way to play Berman for piles of cash? Sure he probably has more, but if her nature was just to go for the gold, she would've tried to suck the father dry regardless of his wealth.
This. SI's not making much sense.
Further, I want to respond about the Witchy thing. SI, if you remember, you were a prick to her and about us, saying that she was going to be a gold digger, make me pay for her kid, etc. Basically, the same things you're saying about my fiance. As it turned out, she did none of those things, because, imagine that, there ARE women out there who are honest, good people.
So if she didn't stick it to the father of the child, who rightfully deserved it, what's leading you to believe that she's going to find a way to play Berman for piles of cash? Sure he probably has more, but if her nature was just to go for the gold, she would've tried to suck the father dry regardless of his wealth.
Not really you have a choice. You keep the original dad involved who does not make much money, or you push him out and fish up a new guy who makes plenty.
I have seen a few women do this too in my career. We are also going off her side of the story which makes no sense that she would marry him, but then elt him disappear and get away without paying child support. It makes her out to be pretty stupid if her story is true.
Further, I want to respond about the Witchy thing. SI, if you remember, you were a prick to her and about us, saying that she was going to be a gold digger, make me pay for her kid, etc. Basically, the same things you're saying about my fiance. As it turned out, she did none of those things, because, imagine that, there ARE women out there who are honest, good people.
You cannot put down what i have said though because you know there is only two options. She is either a total moron, or a gold digger passing up the hamburger for steak. Also no one knows why you two ended it either so your just using that to your advantage when any number of those things could have happened, or you just turned out to be a complete d*** who could not be nice to her kid.
So say what you want you're nothing but a spare tire. You are buying a T.V dinner in the meal of life. However i get it death is a scary thing.
You cannot put down what i have said though because you know there is only two options. She is either a total moron, or a gold digger passing up the hamburger for steak. Also no one knows why you two ended it either so your just using that to your advantage when any number of those things could have happened, or you just turned out to be a complete d*** who could not be nice to her kid.
So say what you want you're nothing but a spare tire. You are buying a T.V dinner in the meal of life. However i get it death is a scary thing.
Passing up a hamburger for a steak? Yeah... at age 24 or so, when she chose to not go after him for child support, she knew that 10 years later she'd become engaged to an attorney
With respect to Witchy and I, it was none of those things, and I'm pretty damn sure she'll say that I was not a complete d*** to either her or her daughter.
Not really you have a choice. You keep the original dad involved who does not make much money, or you push him out and fish up a new guy who makes plenty.
the boyfriend after the dad, who she stayed with for 8-9 years, didn't make s***. she made more than he did. try again.
if she were a gold digger, she could do far better than i.
edit: further, if she were a gold digger, why has she refused money from her parents since she was 18-19, when they constantly offered, still offer, and are pretty well off? the "gold digger" type will grub money from any source they can.
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[b]I have seen a few women do this too in my career. We are also going off her side of the story which makes no sense that she would marry him, but then elt him disappear and get away without paying child support. It makes her out to be pretty stupid if her story is true.
there is definitely a little that i don't know with respect to why she "let" him disappear... but i've figured out some things, and i think that it's that he was physically abusive and she was happier to just have him never around her or her child.
that seems not "stupid" to me to get someone like that out of your life.
the boyfriend after the dad, who she stayed with for 8-9 years, didn't make s***. she made more than he did. try again.
if she were a gold digger, she could do far better than i.
edit: further, if she were a gold digger, why has she refused money from her parents since she was 18-19, when they constantly offered, still offer, and are pretty well off? the "gold digger" type will grub money from any source they can.
there is definitely a little that i don't know with respect to why she "let" him disappear... but i've figured out some things, and i think that it's that he was physically abusive and she was happier to just have him never around her or her child.
that seems not "stupid" to me to get someone like that out of your life.
Why not do some fact checking on the wife and try to find the ex to see what kind of guy he is?
yeah. let me go right ahead and hunt down her ex
based upon the fact she didn't go after child support, and wouldn't take money from her parents, she cannot possibly be a gold digger. at the worst, she was "stupid." 10 years ago.
You cannot put down what i have said though because you know there is only two options. She is either a total moron, or a gold digger passing up the hamburger for steak. Also no one knows why you two ended it either so your just using that to your advantage when any number of those things could have happened, or you just turned out to be a complete d*** who could not be nice to her kid.
So say what you want you're nothing but a spare tire. You are buying a T.V dinner in the meal of life. However i get it death is a scary thing.
Ok... so lets set the record straight.
I broke up with Berman
I didn't want to move and for our relationship to go forward.. one of would have had to move. He had the better job, why would I ask him to move?
We both now are better off and happier..... we are still great friends.. and talk a lot..
He was never a d*** to me.. and very nice to my daughter.
If you wanted to know SI why we broke up.. you could have just asked.
I broke up with Berman
I didn't want to move and for our relationship to go forward.. one of would have had to move. He had the better job, why would I ask him to move?
We both now are better off and happier..... we are still great friends.. and talk a lot..
He was never a d*** to me.. and very nice to my daughter.
If you wanted to know SI why we broke up.. you could have just asked.
If it had been me, you would not have broken up with me. And you would have moved. Then I would have broken up with you.
I broke up with Berman
I didn't want to move and for our relationship to go forward.. one of would have had to move. He had the better job, why would I ask him to move?
We both now are better off and happier..... we are still great friends.. and talk a lot..
He was never a d*** to me.. and very nice to my daughter.
If you wanted to know SI why we broke up.. you could have just asked.